Dear Kyra, I hope you are well. Thank you for this fascinating post - so much food for thought and to reflect on. ..."Eclipses can conceal and some have the ability to reveal, depending on other astrological circumstances of the time. In this case, there is a concealment of something related to destructive material or deeply emotional relationship issues from the past that are coming to the surface for an opportunity to heal"... Amazing!! I have been trying to use the eclipse and the weeks before as an opportunity to have gratitude, release old hurts and really move on. But I'm struggling to understand why an experience I attracted? with a person I misjudged? due to naivety? continues to cause me such deep, ongoing pain and regret. I guess it is about growth. I have tried to learn the lessons, forgive and let go, but the energy still lingers freshly around me. I'm stuck. I can't understand or accept that the other person (who I obviously still care about and have always seen the good in), refuses communication so we may clear the air and move on. I feel stupid and embarrassed. It appears they do not even care enough to give me a second thought. That really hurts. If time permits, would you please pull a card for me? Thanking you so much. Ali.
Dear Ali, The card I pulled for you is 4 of Pentacles Reversed. In any kind of relationship, this card can signify being ready to let go of the past. It takes time to get to know someone and sometimes when we give them the benefit of the doubt and keep holding on despite the signs they will still be removed from our lives, because that is in our highest good, even if we're not ready. That's exactly why they have to be removed by means beyond our control, because we might not let go of them otherwise. This card can also indicate that the person in question is focused on material things right now and possibly lost in that but you have a different path that you have been placed on that will draw you towards meeting people who reflect that. Keep helping others and being kind as you have been doing, and you will think about this person less. Also keep in mind that the universe hears conversations we can't. There's more to this person than you know and someone's "rejection" can be reperceived as the universe's protection. This card in reverse can be about fear (of scarcity, for instance, whether emotional or material) that makes us hold onto the past. If that's the case, you can hand over that fear to a higher source in your mind or Great Spirit or nature, etc. (any higher ideal) and ask for guidance on what to do next, then focus on being helpful where you can. Do this and the fear will diminish. One last note about this card: a lesson you can take from this experience is to let someone earn your trust over time based on their actions. You will attract people who appreciate you and who are most aligned with you as you approach new relationships with some scrutiny, at least until there is trust. You have done this before in friendships so you know what it looks like. As for this person, an exercise is to focus on something you didn't like about them when they come to mind as idealising can make it take longer to heal. See them through realistic eyes and know that they are not representative of what is out there. 4 of Pentacles Reversed is an empowering card because it encourages you to be generous, but only with those who have proven that they value you. The fact that you have self-awareness about what happened proves that you are are already growing from the experience.
Dear Kyra, I hope you are well. Thank you for this fascinating post - so much food for thought and to reflect on. ..."Eclipses can conceal and some have the ability to reveal, depending on other astrological circumstances of the time. In this case, there is a concealment of something related to destructive material or deeply emotional relationship issues from the past that are coming to the surface for an opportunity to heal"... Amazing!! I have been trying to use the eclipse and the weeks before as an opportunity to have gratitude, release old hurts and really move on. But I'm struggling to understand why an experience I attracted? with a person I misjudged? due to naivety? continues to cause me such deep, ongoing pain and regret. I guess it is about growth. I have tried to learn the lessons, forgive and let go, but the energy still lingers freshly around me. I'm stuck. I can't understand or accept that the other person (who I obviously still care about and have always seen the good in), refuses communication so we may clear the air and move on. I feel stupid and embarrassed. It appears they do not even care enough to give me a second thought. That really hurts. If time permits, would you please pull a card for me? Thanking you so much. Ali.
Dear Ali, The card I pulled for you is 4 of Pentacles Reversed. In any kind of relationship, this card can signify being ready to let go of the past. It takes time to get to know someone and sometimes when we give them the benefit of the doubt and keep holding on despite the signs they will still be removed from our lives, because that is in our highest good, even if we're not ready. That's exactly why they have to be removed by means beyond our control, because we might not let go of them otherwise. This card can also indicate that the person in question is focused on material things right now and possibly lost in that but you have a different path that you have been placed on that will draw you towards meeting people who reflect that. Keep helping others and being kind as you have been doing, and you will think about this person less. Also keep in mind that the universe hears conversations we can't. There's more to this person than you know and someone's "rejection" can be reperceived as the universe's protection. This card in reverse can be about fear (of scarcity, for instance, whether emotional or material) that makes us hold onto the past. If that's the case, you can hand over that fear to a higher source in your mind or Great Spirit or nature, etc. (any higher ideal) and ask for guidance on what to do next, then focus on being helpful where you can. Do this and the fear will diminish. One last note about this card: a lesson you can take from this experience is to let someone earn your trust over time based on their actions. You will attract people who appreciate you and who are most aligned with you as you approach new relationships with some scrutiny, at least until there is trust. You have done this before in friendships so you know what it looks like. As for this person, an exercise is to focus on something you didn't like about them when they come to mind as idealising can make it take longer to heal. See them through realistic eyes and know that they are not representative of what is out there. 4 of Pentacles Reversed is an empowering card because it encourages you to be generous, but only with those who have proven that they value you. The fact that you have self-awareness about what happened proves that you are are already growing from the experience.
Dear Kyra. Thank you so much. This has really helped me xxx