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Dear Kyra,

I am crying as I read your interpretation for this first half of August. The 7 of cups reversed seems to be the energy that’s presenting itself to me in a rather overwhelming way.

I moved in with a flatmate that I had known since 2019, this past May. As the last three months progressed, I realized I’d made a choice based on appearances, rather than intuition, especially since she lives in a very beautiful apartment that gives, at first, very safe vibes.

My flatmate is a very lonely person, who has been vocal about having issues living with other people (only one person in the past two years has lasted six months while living with her, while most don’t last more than 1-2 months), as well as with securing work because of being middle-aged and an actress. While I am very good at setting healthy boundaries, I realized she kept overstepping them to the point that she created a complex plot in her head about me having a mental illness. If that wasn’t enough, she contacted one of my closest friends, with whom she has no relationship whatsoever, and shared that I probably need medication to treat this imaginary mental illness.

While I don’t like how the terms “narcissism” and “abuse” have become overly used in our Western societies, I can’t help but feel like I have attracted a mirror from the feeling of lacking something (out of desperate need for an apartment, after my housing fell through at the beginning of April).

As I have found out that my now ex-flatmate has behaved similarly with other previous flatmates (with the difference that she and I share the same social circles, unlike other flatmates), I am scared of her smearing me to my peers.

I’d like to ask you, Kyra, if there’s any ill intent coming from her towards me in the future, as I have already cut contact in every way possible.

Namaskar!

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Dear Marcelo,

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through such an unpleasant experience. I think you did end up following your intuition once you saw the signs. Not everyone would have left that situation, but you moved on when it was possible to do so. There's something to be said about the urgency and necessity of housing that results in fewer possible choices. You may have made the best possible decision under the circumstances and for that window of time.

This reminds me of the time when I moved into an art commune in another country. I'd never been to that country and didn't know anyone there. I found the listing on social media. While I had my reservations, housing was quite scarce in this city, the home looked charming and beautiful, and the price was a lot more affordable than hotels. I ignored my intuition because of limited housing options. I'd been there less than a month when most of the tenants along with the owner were conducting "rituals" that I didn't want to participate in. When I wouldn't socialise with them because I was busy with school and work, those five tenants along with the owner called the police on me! One of them, who seemed to be the most caught up in what now seemed to me to be a cult more than an "art commune" (no one was making any art!) had a message about me for the officers. She told the police that I must have been insane for not wanting to socialise with them! One of the officers said to them, "Point one finger at someone else and you're pointing three back at yourself". I would say the same to you; this person who made up something about you was projecting their own beliefs about herself. Her act of contacting your friend demonstrates that she knew on some level that she was wrong and needed someone else to validate her delusion (7 of Cups).

The card you get for this situation is the Knight of Swords Reversed. This describes your former flatmate: impulsive and prone to being controlling. Sometimes this card can represent bullying, abuse, or an argumentative personality. While this type of person can be intimidating, the compassionate part of you senses that she is hurting, lacks direction, and has difficulty maintaining friendships. You, on the other hand, will always have friends. In seeing what she struggles with, you can feel grateful for your natural ability to be social.

She has been through this pattern of being unable to live with people before and when it happened again she was too afraid to look at the common denominator (herself) and that is why she made up a story in her head about you, which obviously isn't true. Your genuine friends will know this. Word gets around and people can't hide their problems forever. The truth will come out in the end.

Another reason she called your friend and made up this story is because she fears, and knows on some level, that the truth about her issues will come out at some point. By shifting that description of her own behaviour onto you (and others, as she has done before), she delays the inevitable revelations about her problems. She will move on to focusing on the next ex-flatmate, and the one after that. Cutting off communication and not reacting was the right action for your own protection. If you continued to engage, she would have escalated the situation and accusations.

By the way, I left the situation I was in, too, and ended up needing to move into hotels anyway! I lived in those hotels for about five weeks, but it was worth my peace of mind. The six of them (along with a Neo-Nazi friend they enlisted) attempted to physically attack me in the end but I prevented it by video recording them and saying I was sending it live to the police. It turns out that their real issue with me was that I'd been writing a blog that was critical of Trump. I had not expected to leave the U.S. in 2018 only to immediately encounter a pro-Trump cult in another country!

One of my clues that I ignored my unconscious instincts was in the first thing I said to some of them on the day I moved in: "I feel like I'm on one of those reality shows where someone gets voted off the island". In a way, that's what would happen. I would get voted out of the "island", or house, for refusing to conform, but I ignored that feeling because I was desperate to find a place to live at the time. In hindsight, this is a lesson to not act on fear. Whenever I've made decisions based on fears instead of faith, it hasn't worked out!

They forgot about me and this woman will forget about you, too. This experience will help you to identify that personality type more quickly in the future. We all have intuition but life experience creates a language with which we can interpret those instincts more quickly. It might not seem like it now, but there was a reason this person briefly encountered your life path and that purpose will help to create a better future for you, particularly when you make an upcoming career decision about who to work with and who is not right for your circle. There is a more significant circumstance that you will now be able to avoid. Therefore, there is no need for regrets. In the grand scheme of your life, you were being looked out for and the specific reason why will be revealed in time.

Ciao,

Kyra

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Dear Kyra,

Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience, as well as for your beautiful reading!

Now that a few days have passed since I’ve left my ex flatmate’s apartment, I’m truly realizing and appreciating (for the third time this year) how protected I am. I do feel grateful for my natural ability to be social, as you’ve expressed precisely.

A toast to a new chapter of faith-based decisions!

I wish you a gorgeous full moon in Aquarius 🙏🏽

Much love to you,

Marcelo

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A U.S. News from the Future detail that I meant to add is the movement towards rolling back child labour laws to a younger age, lowering the minimum wage for younger workers, and a lowering of the legal age for child marriage without a requirement of parental or guardian consent (first in the South, then elsewhere). This prediction is based on the tarot card The Sun Reversed. While apparently temporary, these future circumstances instigate a demand by activists for lowering the voting age to 16, which will also happen. The lowering of the minimum age for voting would bring back children's rights.

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