Life and Afterlife Coaching: "Who Should Pay on a Date?"

On tonight’s show with special guest, actress Lauren Carter, we discussed dating rituals. For example, are traditional roles outdated when it comes to paying for dates, or do some of them still remain relevant? It’s a helpful question on this quest for a spiritual relationship, because once take away the distractions of materialism, we are free to focus on inner qualities: our partner's values, beliefs, and integrity.

There are several possible answers to the question about whether or not to pay on a date, and some of the choices are as follows:

Each situation is different and every couple is unique. You may find that you want to go dutch or take turns paying with one partner, but are more comfortable having the other person pay during a different phase in your life.

You might want to be the one to pay at a time in your life when your income is higher.

You may prefer that the person who asks someone out be the one who takes care of the bill.

You could wait until the date to discuss it with your partner and arrive at a decision together as a test of how good you are at compromising with one another. If they are unwilling to be reasonable, that is just more information to about how you communicate together. Dating is a way to get to know one another, and sometimes what we construe as a disappointing moment is really a helpful hint from the Universe about the true nature of yourself and the person you're dating.

"If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it." - Anonymous

Challenges of etiquette, manners, and formality can be a great way to open a discussion with your partner about societal standards. It’s a way to get to know each other better, and to practise asking for your needs and wants to be met...not only on a date, but also as the connection evolves into a future relationship.