Life and Afterlife Coaching: The Waiting Game

On tonight’s episode of Zodiac Divas with Butch Patrick, "Romantically Challenged", we asked if it’s better to be honest about your interest in someone, or to entice them by playing hard to get. Both men and women have been known to be elusive when dating. Coyness seems to be a personality trait that transcends gender and sexual preference. So why do we play hard to get? Probably because it sometimes works, although only on certain people and only for a limited period of time. It’s human nature to appreciate something more when it has to be earned, and we can take for granted the things that come to us too easily. Our co-host Butch Patrick expressed that he feels honesty is always the best policy. 

"Say what you mean and don't say it mean." (Author Unknown) 

If your love interest is intuitively aware, they’ll sense that you’re playing games to try and force a desired outcome. However, you also don’t have to reveal everything about what you’re feeling while you’re getting to know someone. The situation can become codependent if you have a tendency to become needy and clingy, or to have unreasonable expectations too early in the relationship. When we project past relationships and transfer future hopes onto a potential partner, we unwittingly contribute to an atmosphere of pressure that can create both resistance and discomfort.

If you have the attitude that it takes time to get to know someone, and you’re not filling in the blanks of who you want them to be (with fantasy or imagination), you will naturally create boundaries and won’t have to play hard to get. You’ll just be letting things develop authentically between you, and by surrendering to the Universe and allowing the process unfold naturally, it could eventually turn into a legacy of love.

Source: Kyra Oser Blog Feed