Life and Afterlife Coaching: "Is Role Playing in Relationships Beneficial or Detrimental?"

On tonight's episode of Zodiac Divas with special guest Alanna Ubach, we talked about the variety of roles she's played as an actor, including her voice over artist work portraying far-reaching characters such as little boys.

In our relationships, many of us have played particular roles with different people, or even changed roles throughout various stages of the relationship. It can be healthy to have a complementary relationship where we provide something where our partner has a weakness, and they perhaps offer a skill to the world and to our partnership where we are lacking in strength. For instance, your boyfriend may be highly communicative and a social planner while you would rather focus on work and be in charge of paying bills and balancing the monthly budget. There is nothing wrong with bringing our greatest strengths to a relationship while honouring and admiring the contrasting yet equally needed skills of your partner.

The danger of role playing is when you are forcing yourself to be inauthentic in order to please your partner, altering your behaviour out of fear that you will lose the relationship. However, if your change in attitude is an experiment in trying an alternative tactic because the old ways just aren't working anymore, you're keeping both yourself and your partner in mind and that could be mutually beneficial. Check your motives, and if your intention in adapting to the relationship is more about love than about fear, you probably have more of a chance to make this partnership a genuinely fulfiling experience at least for yourself, if not for both of you as time goes on.