Life and Afterlife Coaching: "Departure from Emotional Baggage & Arrival at Your True Destination"

Our show tonight featured Kate Linder, a veteran actress on The Young and the Restless, an advocate for numerous charitable organisations, and a versatile Renaissance Woman who also finds time to work as an airline stewardess. We (or at least our stewardess) can put away our baggage when we fly to other cities, but what can we do with the emotional baggage we carry with us, often collecting more luggage along the way as we move from one relationship to another?

First of all, what is the purpose of this baggage? Every defect has an asset, and even the most painful issues serve a certain purpose in our lives. Emotional baggage can be a way of trying to protect ourselves. If we've been hurt before, the baggage can be our behaviour where we refuse to trust because we want the other person to prove to us that they're not like the one who has broken our heart in the past. The problem is that we sometimes have so much baggage that it's impossible for us to let down our guard and become vulnerable in a romantic relationship. If we can't be available to a partner, a relationship is unable to develop past a certain point and the connection is likely to diminish as our partner becomes increasingly discouraged by what appears to be our own rejecting behaviour. Without meaning to, we end up sabotaging the very thing we were seeking: a chance to be loved.

  But please don't be discouraged! There are many ways that you can start to leave your luggage in the bin, starting today:  

*Practise acceptance of self and, by extension, others.

  *Let go of resentment against those you feel have hurt you in the past. Take responsibility for your part in things.   "Resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die." -Author Unknown   *Have a counselor or support group you can check in with so that you're able to tell the difference between when you’re projecting fears from past relationships  and when you actually have a valid concern that you want to communicate to your partner.   *Be willing to admit your mistakes in the relationship. Ask yourself: "do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?"  

Meditation on any object in Nature, even a simple flower, can quickly reconnect you to the Divine.

*Finally, let go and trust that there is a Divine Plan for your romantic relationships. You are not the pilot of this plane of existence. You are also not alone, and most things work themselves out without your interference. Look back on your past relationships. Things worked themselves out somehow before, so why should that be any different now?

  If you've tried to control the outcome of your dating endeavours in the past to no avail, perhaps you can try a different tactic this time. For instance, if you are having difficulties in your relationship and are usually the one to put in more effort, try taking some time to yourself, relax, meditate on it, and ask the Universe to guide you to the people you're meant to know in life. The search for love and its follies along the way can be one of the most potent reminders that it's time to rebuild our ultimate relationship: the one between ourselves and the Divine.